How to Make Abhyanga Work in Real Mom Life (Even if you only have 5 minutes)
Let’s be honest—between growing a baby, birthing a baby, and taking care of a baby... your body does a lot. And somewhere in the chaos, it’s easy to forget that your body needs care too.
That’s where Abhyanga comes in—Ayurveda’s version of a full-body love letter in the form of warm oil massage. It’s grounding, calming, and incredibly nourishing—especially during pregnancy and postpartum when your body is going through what can only be described as a metamorphosis. 🐛➡🦋
You don’t need a spa or an hour of silence (ha!). Even 5 minutes in the shower while your toddler plays with measuring cups counts.
And yes, you can totally do this yourself. Or if you’re lucky, let your partner, a postpartum doula, or massage therapist lend a hand.
Quick Note: If you’ve just had your baby, always check with your OB, midwife, or care team before starting massage—especially after a C-section.
Why Should I Even Try This?
Because it helps you feel like you again. And that’s reason enough. But also:
💆♀️ Eases soreness and body aches
💨 Calms your nervous system
💗 Supports circulation, milk flow, and postpartum healing
🌙 Helps with sleep (even if it’s just in 2-hour increments)
✨ Moisturizes and tones the skin
Here’s How to Do Abhyanga (Without Making a Huge Mess):
Step 1: Choose Your Oil
You’ll need about ¼ to ½ cup of oil.
My faves:
Sesame oil – deeply warming and grounding
Almond oil – nourishing, good for dry skin
Sunflower oil – lighter, great if you run warm
Step 2: Warm It Up
Pop it in a bottle warmer or place your oil bottle in a mug of hot water for 5 minutes. Warm oil = instant comfort.
Step 3: Set Up Your Space
Lay an old towel on the floor (because oil stains are real).
Make sure the room is cozy and draft-free. I usually turn on a space heater for extra warmth.
Step 4: Start at the Top
Sit or stand on your towel and begin your massage:
A few drops of oil on the crown of your head (optional if you’re not up for hair washing later!)
Circle around your scalp, then move to ears, face, and neck
Long strokes on arms and legs, circular motions on joints
Gentle strokes on your belly and breasts (great for milk flow—just wipe off before nursing)
If you’re pregnant:
You can gently massage the perineum (the area between the vaginal opening and rectum) to help prepare for birth and reduce the risk of tearing.
Don’t forget your feet!
It’s the most grounding part—and may help you sleep better. Just be sure to wipe them off if you’re walking around after.
Step 5: Let It Soak In
If you can, chill for 15–30 minutes while the oil absorbs. Even if you’re folding laundry or answering texts, your skin will soak it up. Then hop into a warm shower or bath—no soap needed on most of your body, just rinse.
What You’ll Notice
With regular practice, your skin will feel softer, your sleep deeper, and your nervous system just a little more regulated. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll feel a tiny spark of “me time” in the middle of this wild, beautiful, messy season.
You’re doing great, Mama.
Rub some oil on your feet and remind yourself of that. 💛